I would like to introduce you to Type 1 of the Enneagram.
Type 1, in a nutshell, is a perfectionist. It doesn’t tolerate flaws, doesn’t tolerate outrageousness, and doesn’t tolerate incompetence …….
They tend to look at what is wrong in every aspect, and they love to improve and reform…… rather than always thinking that they must do so.
Reformers
Type 1 is said to be “ reformers,” and many of them are serious and virtuous. At the same time, however, many of them are rigid and inflexible, and if they are not very good at what they do, they can cause pain to themselves and others by being stuck in their narrow-minded ideals.
Type 1s are not perfectionists ……, but rather people who cannot help but do something immediately when they find some waste or flaw.
For example, moral principles such as “greet people properly,” “be kind and humble to others,” work procedures, rules that must be strictly followed, and in extreme cases, how to fold a newspaper or the order in which to wash oneself in the bathtub, etc.
If they think something is “wrong! If they think “It’s wrong!”, their spirit of improvement will be demonstrated in any situation.
Type 1 has rules that must be followed in doing something, and if there is a discrepancy, they want to correct it.
Whether healthy or unhealthy, Type 1s have such tendencies.
And the more unhealthy they become, the more they raise the rules to be followed and the minimum quality to be ensured, and in the end, they may demand a level of quality and integrity that cannot be achieved no matter how hard they try, as if it were a matter of course.
The world is imperfect, and everyone is a failure! Then I, who am better, if not perfect, will correct the world’s failures!”
In extreme cases, for Type 1, there are only bad people in principle, because they are bad themselves and others are also bad.
So, at the very least, I, who know a little bit about the uselessness of the world, must do something about it. Because other people don’t even know how bad they are.
With such a sense of duty and mission on their shoulders, Type 1s continue to fight against evil and imperfection in the world.
Only I can talk about ideals!
The main drawbacks of Type 1 are meddling andnarrow-mindedness.
By their very nature, most are unmistakably on the side of justice, or at least highly idealistic and professional.
However, if they go too far, they can become snubbed or even a nuisance.
For Type 1, there is an ideal of how the world should be. This way of thinking is good for updating the group for the better, but if it goes too far, the number of dropouts will increase, and eventually the group will be repulsed by those around them.
Type 1s with an extremely biased way of thinking end up becoming self-righteous and intrusive rulers.
He will propose reforms and goals that no one wants, impose them on people, and if anyone deviates even slightly from the ideals he has set for himself, he will destroy their dignity with sarcasm and sermons and try to forcefully rehabilitate them. …… You may even see such a figure.
Type 1s are often obsessed with the idea that they and others are totally screwed up, but they have some understanding of how to do things and what is right.
That is true. This is because the right way to be and the right goal that they hold up as an ideal is, in other words, “the ideal or the highest form that I alone have in mind.
Naturally, ideals and righteousness differ from person to person, but Type 1s are more or less convinced that their ideal is the one that everyone is pursuing/needs to pursue.
At best, they are good guides with a strong sense of reason. At worst, they are troublesome people who impose their own rules on others and come at them from above, saying, “I will lead.
Their pride in being “ right” often leads to high ideals and integrity, but it can also make them self-righteous, arrogant, unreceptive, and obstinate troublemakers.
For an ideal that everyone wants.
Now, why do Type 1s impose their ideals on themselves and others so rigidly, sometimes to the point of arrogance?
The cause of this absolute adherence to ideals is often found in the people around them.
For example, when a friend or lover says
I want to change my job.
I want to lose weight.
Type 1’s heart is ignited when a friend or loved one expresses a desire such as “I want to change my job,” “I want to lose weight,” etc.
And then they think. I understand. Then I will make your ideal come true!
The Type 1 who is thus motivated to help the other person achieve his or her ideal will search around for information, gather his or her own wisdom, and plan out a detailed plan for a successful career change or diet, and then present it to the other person.
Depending on the degree of unhealthiness or perfectionism, he or she may force a plan that he or she has seriously and without checking the seriousness of the plan, or in some cases, without being told, he or she may force an ideal on the person by saying, “This is definitely the way to do it! In some cases, they impose their ideals on the person without being told to do so.
In other words, they are the whip of love.
In short, whether it is sincere or distorted, at the root of it all is the desire to “help the other person.
Of course, there may be times when you have to meddle or talk about your own likes and dislikes as if it were justice. …… But in any case, you may want to remember that “he/she has no bad intentions.”
If you can afford it, you can make it big.
Type 1 has no room to spare.
They work hard to do “this and that,” and think that they can make everything better by themselves. Therefore, they tend to take on a huge amount of work on their own.
Moreover, because they are so proud that they are the only one who can do it, they cannot rely on others and tend to look down on others without realizing it.
As a result, one person alone may be burdened with heavy responsibilities and a large number of tasks, and may become exhausted and become self-indulgent, thinking that “no one else understands ideals or justice.
They may become exhausted and become self-indulgent, saying, “No one understands ideals and justice.” They may even break the rules they have set for themselves, saying, “Only I have done my best,” or “It is the fault of others who are miserable.
It is wonderful to see Type 1’s pursuit of their ideals without even a moment to spare for sleep, but it is meaningless if they collapse because of the strong involvement of others.
Instead of judging guilt over everything as “this is wrong,” be aware of what you want to do, regardless of your ideals.
Many Type 1s dislike waste, play, and their own honest feelings. Even if they don’t, they will want to keep their distance.
Sometimes you are so busy trying to be a perfect person yourself that you don’t even pay attention to your own true feelings of frustration that others are not behaving the way you want them to.
The most important task is to make room, to look closely at the bad aspects of our own hearts, and to have room to admit “moderation” and our own feelings that are not ideal.
The Type 1 who has made room and play and learned about his or her own black side should awaken as a truly virtuous personality.
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